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Kelly Wallace

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Recent estimates put the lifetime cost of sexual assault and rape at around $122,000 over one’s lifetime. Those costs include criminal justice expenses, lost wages and productivity, and medical. Whether you’re 7 or 16 and you don’t know whether the abuse felt good or whether it was right, the long term effects to your pocketbook are expansive. #survivors #healingjourney #traumarecovery created by Kelly Wallace with Raspo’s spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

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Recent estimates put the lifetime cost of sexual assault and rape at around $122,000 over one’s lifetime. Those costs include criminal justice expenses, lost wages and productivity, and medical. Whether you’re 7 or 16 and you don’t know whether the abuse felt good or whether it was right, the long term effects to your pocketbook are expansive.

#survivors #healingjourney #traumarecovery

The sexual abuse that happened to me felt good there. I said it. In conversations about child sexual abuse, no one really wants to talk about the fact that sometimes it feels good. The way that my brain processed that trauma was that because it felt good, I felt like I was the one that caused it. But the truth is, I didn’t cause it. I was seven years old, and the adult that perpetrated that upon me was 55. But for many years I carried around baggage and believed that it did happen because I didn’t stop it.

Learning to let go of self blame has allowed me to move on and accept the reality that I am an adult now, and I don’t have to live in that child body anymore.
#BreakingTheCycle #FamilySecrets #SpeakYourTruth #HealingFromWithin created by Kelly Wallace with Petit Biscuit’s Night Trouble

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The sexual abuse that happened to me felt good there. I said it. In conversations about child sexual abuse, no one really wants to talk about the fact that sometimes it feels good. The way that my brain processed that trauma was that because it felt good, I felt like I was the one that caused it. But the truth is, I didn’t cause it. I was seven years old, and the adult that perpetrated that upon me was 55. But for many years I carried around baggage and believed that it did happen because I didn’t stop it.

Learning to let go of self blame has allowed me to move on and accept the reality that I am an adult now, and I don’t have to live in that child body anymore.

#BreakingTheCycle #FamilySecrets #SpeakYourTruth #HealingFromWithin

In my younger years, the very adults meant to shield me failed, leaving me vulnerable to abuse. This betrayal etched deep mistrust in my soul, making it difficult to open my heart as an adult, especially to romantic partners. I, unfortunately, found myself in patterns of choosing those who were emotionally absent or harmful. Yet, through recovery programs, I’ve journeyed within, learning to trust again and understanding my worth. Now, I stand empowered, consciously picking partners who cherish and respect me. #TrustRebuilt #JourneyToHealing #EmpoweredChoices #LearningToLoveRight #FromPainToPower #BreakingTheCycle #FamilySecrets #SpeakYourTruth #EndTheSilence #HealingFromWithin created by Kelly Wallace with Kelly Wallace’s original sound

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In my younger years, the very adults meant to shield me failed, leaving me vulnerable to abuse. This betrayal etched deep mistrust in my soul, making it difficult to open my heart as an adult, especially to romantic partners. I, unfortunately, found myself in patterns of choosing those who were emotionally absent or harmful. Yet, through recovery programs, I’ve journeyed within, learning to trust again and understanding my worth. Now, I stand empowered, consciously picking partners who cherish and respect me. #TrustRebuilt #JourneyToHealing #EmpoweredChoices #LearningToLoveRight #FromPainToPower #BreakingTheCycle #FamilySecrets #SpeakYourTruth #EndTheSilence #HealingFromWithin

The disparity in how society treats victims of different crimes is stark. While compassion flows readily for victims of theft or mugging, sexual assault survivors often find themselves battling skepticism and prejudice. Even more troubling is the fact that female survivors, who already represent a significant majority of the victims, face an uphill battle in courts where they’re believed at lower rates compared to male survivors. The conviction rate is already alarmingly low, but being a female survivor adds another layer of challenge. We must question these biases and rally for a system that truly supports all survivors. #BelieveSurvivors #EndTheDisparity #JusticeForAll #SpeakUpForChange #StandWithSurvivors created by Kelly Wallace with Raspo’s spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

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The disparity in how society treats victims of different crimes is stark. While compassion flows readily for victims of theft or mugging, sexual assault survivors often find themselves battling skepticism and prejudice. Even more troubling is the fact that female survivors, who already represent a significant majority of the victims, face an uphill battle in courts where they’re believed at lower rates compared to male survivors. The conviction rate is already alarmingly low, but being a female survivor adds another layer of challenge. We must question these biases and rally for a system that truly supports all survivors. #BelieveSurvivors #EndTheDisparity #JusticeForAll #SpeakUpForChange #StandWithSurvivors

Navigating family bonds amidst painful revelations is one of life’s most challenging journeys. I loved my dad, but when I mustered the courage to share my truth, he couldn’t—or wouldn’t—believe me. It’s very likely that the cycle of incest may have touched him too, especially in his close-knit farming community where dark secrets often stayed buried. Whatever the reasons, the grim reality is that patterns of incest persist across generations. It’s crucial to break the cycle and speak out. #BreakingTheCycle #FamilySecrets #SpeakYourTruth #EndTheSilence #HealingFromWithin created by Kelly Wallace with The Worship Initiative Instrumentals’s Gratitude (Instrumental)

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Navigating family bonds amidst painful revelations is one of life’s most challenging journeys. I loved my dad, but when I mustered the courage to share my truth, he couldn’t—or wouldn’t—believe me. It’s very likely that the cycle of incest may have touched him too, especially in his close-knit farming community where dark secrets often stayed buried. Whatever the reasons, the grim reality is that patterns of incest persist across generations. It’s crucial to break the cycle and speak out. #BreakingTheCycle #FamilySecrets #SpeakYourTruth #EndTheSilence #HealingFromWithin

#traumahealing #survivorstories #believesurvivors created by Kelly Wallace with Raspo’s spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

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#traumahealing #survivorstories #believesurvivors

For much of my life, I felt as if I should apologize just for existing. Overcoming this debilitating sense of shame wasn’t easy; it required therapy, meditation, and plenty of introspection. Today, I speak out publicly, not just as a form of personal healing but to offer others a platform to share their experiences openly. My journey has brought me to a place where I now recognize my role as an adult survivor—to help others heal, especially those who might not have the resources or ability to do so on their own. We each have our unique paths to healing, but no one should have to walk that path alone. #traumarecovery #SpeakingOut #MentalHealthAwareness #HealingTogether #traumahealing created by Kelly Wallace with Sol Rising’s The Journey

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For much of my life, I felt as if I should apologize just for existing. Overcoming this debilitating sense of shame wasn’t easy; it required therapy, meditation, and plenty of introspection. Today, I speak out publicly, not just as a form of personal healing but to offer others a platform to share their experiences openly. My journey has brought me to a place where I now recognize my role as an adult survivor—to help others heal, especially those who might not have the resources or ability to do so on their own. We each have our unique paths to healing, but no one should have to walk that path alone. #traumarecovery #SpeakingOut #MentalHealthAwareness #HealingTogether #traumahealing

At only eight years old, I took the stand against my paternal grandpa, believing I was the lone victim. As time unraveled, it became clear there were others. My grandpa was associated with two significant youth organizations, which, unlike the Boy Scouts and Catholic Church, have yet to face their own MeToo reckoning. Last year, I approached one such organization in Oregon, hoping to spread awareness about my grandfather and identify other potential victims. Their response, based on the time elapsed since his involvement, was deeply disheartening. My pursuit of justice continues, undeterred. #SeekingJustice #MeToo #ProtectTheInnocent #tellyourstory created by Kelly Wallace with Noru’s Gentle and warm background piano(1262846)

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At only eight years old, I took the stand against my paternal grandpa, believing I was the lone victim. As time unraveled, it became clear there were others. My grandpa was associated with two significant youth organizations, which, unlike the Boy Scouts and Catholic Church, have yet to face their own MeToo reckoning. Last year, I approached one such organization in Oregon, hoping to spread awareness about my grandfather and identify other potential victims. Their response, based on the time elapsed since his involvement, was deeply disheartening. My pursuit of justice continues, undeterred. #SeekingJustice #MeToo #ProtectTheInnocent #tellyourstory

When I was 8 years old a child sexual abuse awareness video made me realize what my grandpa was doing wasn’t normal. I told my mom what was happening between me and my paternal grandfather and she reacted in a way that was supportive by telling me that she believed me and that she had sensed something might be up. I was really anxious and had some behaviors that she couldn’t really find any explanation for. For my mom, it answered her questions. My mom is really a do-er and so she jumped right into action. She called the police and we already had a case manager. Immediately after, I was plunged into therapy with an individual counselor and in group counseling settings #traumasurvivor #tellyourstory #survivor #trauma #traumahealing created by Kelly Wallace with Sol Rising’s The Journey

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When I was 8 years old a child sexual abuse awareness video made me realize what my grandpa was doing wasn’t normal. I told my mom what was happening between me and my paternal grandfather and she reacted in a way that was supportive by telling me that she believed me and that she had sensed something might be up. I was really anxious and had some behaviors that she couldn’t really find any explanation for. For my mom, it answered her questions. My mom is really a do-er and so she jumped right into action. She called the police and we already had a case manager. Immediately after, I was plunged into therapy with an individual counselor and in group counseling settings
#traumasurvivor #tellyourstory #survivor #trauma #traumahealing

When I was 8 years old a child sexual abuse awareness video made me realize what my grandpa was doing wasn’t normal. I told my mom what was happening between me and my paternal grandfather and she reacted in a way that was supportive by telling me that she believed me and that she had sensed something might be up. I was really anxious and had some behaviors that she couldn’t really find any explanation for. For my mom, it answered her questions. My mom is really a do-er and so she jumped right into action. She called the police and we already had a case manager. Immediately after, I was plunged into therapy with an individual counselor and in group counseling settings #traumasurvivor #tellyourstory #survivor #trauma #traumahealing created by Kelly Wallace with Marianne Beaulieu’s The Night We Met

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When I was 8 years old a child sexual abuse awareness video made me realize what my grandpa was doing wasn’t normal. I told my mom what was happening between me and my paternal grandfather and she reacted in a way that was supportive by telling me that she believed me and that she had sensed something might be up. I was really anxious and had some behaviors that she couldn’t really find any explanation for. For my mom, it answered her questions. My mom is really a do-er and so she jumped right into action. She called the police and we already had a case manager. Immediately after, I was plunged into therapy with an individual counselor and in group counseling settings
#traumasurvivor #tellyourstory #survivor #trauma #traumahealing

#ptsd #traumahealing #EmpowerSurvivors created by Kelly Wallace with Sol Rising’s The Journey

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#ptsd #traumahealing #EmpowerSurvivors

The judge, after thoroughly reviewing therapy notes and police reports, mandated strict measures for my father. However, during a crucial polygraph examination, his attempts to manipulate the process were evident. His actions as a lawyer, trying to trick the system, became the very reason he lost his privilege of visitation. Justice indeed takes a closer look and doesn’t allow manipulation. It’s a testament to how the path to healing and protection begins when the truth is brought to the forefront. #JusticePrevails #ProtectingTheInnocent #sasurvivor #TruthMatters created by Kelly Wallace with Makoto Hiramatsu’s Emotional piano and strings

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The judge, after thoroughly reviewing therapy notes and police reports, mandated strict measures for my father. However, during a crucial polygraph examination, his attempts to manipulate the process were evident. His actions as a lawyer, trying to trick the system, became the very reason he lost his privilege of visitation. Justice indeed takes a closer look and doesn’t allow manipulation. It’s a testament to how the path to healing and protection begins when the truth is brought to the forefront. #JusticePrevails #ProtectingTheInnocent #sasurvivor #TruthMatters

Breaking the silence to give a voice to the unheard. 🗣️ Incest survivors have often been left in the shadows, overshadowed by other movements. It’s time to change that. 💪 Let’s come together to support organizations like Incest AWARE, where stories like mine find strength and hope. 🌟 My partnership with them aims to empower fellow survivors and shed light on this important issue. 🤝💚 #BreakingTheSilence #EmpowerSurvivors #IncestAwareness #metoo created by Kelly Wallace with Sol Rising’s The Journey

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Breaking the silence to give a voice to the unheard. 🗣️ Incest survivors have often been left in the shadows, overshadowed by other movements. It’s time to change that. 💪 Let’s come together to support organizations like Incest AWARE, where stories like mine find strength and hope. 🌟 My partnership with them aims to empower fellow survivors and shed light on this important issue. 🤝💚 #BreakingTheSilence #EmpowerSurvivors #IncestAwareness #metoo

Having suffered an assault during my childhood, I found myself merely surviving throughout my college years. The lingering effects of that trauma still made their presence known, occasionally interfering with my education. Around that same time, I discovered the escape that drinking could provide. I remember thinking, ‘Wow, alcohol is incredible. It frees me from my own thoughts.’ However, it wasn’t long before this newfound liberation began to affect my academic performance negatively. I found myself engaging in behaviors that, upon reflection, fill me with a sense of horror. I took up smoking and, in time, developed an eating disorder. Despite this dark period in my life, it’s crucial to note that these struggles didn’t define my entire story. They served as catalysts, driving me to seek help and make positive changes in my life. With time, patience, and an unwavering dedication to healing, I managed to overcome these challenges. Now, I strive to use my experiences to inspire others who might be facing similar struggles, reminding them that it’s never too late to seek help and that brighter days lie ahead. Remember, our past difficulties don’t shape our future, but how we respond to them does. Hold onto hope; it’s the beacon that guides us through our darkest times. #SurvivorJourney #MentalHealthAwareness #OvercomingTrauma #Hope #HealingProcess #SelfImprovement #Resilience #EndStigma #RecoveryIsPossible #LifeAfterTrauma created by Kelly Wallace with Makoto Hiramatsu’s Emotional piano and strings

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Having suffered an assault during my childhood, I found myself merely surviving throughout my college years. The lingering effects of that trauma still made their presence known, occasionally interfering with my education. Around that same time, I discovered the escape that drinking could provide. I remember thinking, ‘Wow, alcohol is incredible. It frees me from my own thoughts.’ However, it wasn’t long before this newfound liberation began to affect my academic performance negatively. I found myself engaging in behaviors that, upon reflection, fill me with a sense of horror. I took up smoking and, in time, developed an eating disorder.

Despite this dark period in my life, it’s crucial to note that these struggles didn’t define my entire story. They served as catalysts, driving me to seek help and make positive changes in my life. With time, patience, and an unwavering dedication to healing, I managed to overcome these challenges. Now, I strive to use my experiences to inspire others who might be facing similar struggles, reminding them that it’s never too late to seek help and that brighter days lie ahead. Remember, our past difficulties don’t shape our future, but how we respond to them does. Hold onto hope; it’s the beacon that guides us through our darkest times.

#SurvivorJourney #MentalHealthAwareness #OvercomingTrauma #Hope #HealingProcess #SelfImprovement #Resilience #EndStigma #RecoveryIsPossible #LifeAfterTrauma

Out of every 1000 sexual assaults, a shocking 975 perpetrators walk free. My paternal grandfather was one of them, walking free, leaving me to battle shame from childhood into adulthood. But I was fortunate to find healing through therapy. Sadly, not everyone has that opportunity, and this has led to an epidemic in the US and beyond. Enter “@recognizeourpower” podcast, a safe haven for those burdened by shame. Join us on this transformative journey, as we explore powerful stories of growth and resilience. Season two is on its way, and I’m thrilled to bring you interviews with more experts and survivors who have thrived despite their past. Stay tuned for the release date, and together, let’s break the chains of shame and empower one another. #breakthesilence #sasurvivor #saawareness created by Kelly Wallace with Kelly Wallace’s original sound

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Out of every 1000 sexual assaults, a shocking 975 perpetrators walk free. My paternal grandfather was one of them, walking free, leaving me to battle shame from childhood into adulthood. But I was fortunate to find healing through therapy. Sadly, not everyone has that opportunity, and this has led to an epidemic in the US and beyond.

Enter “@recognizeourpower” podcast, a safe haven for those burdened by shame. Join us on this transformative journey, as we explore powerful stories of growth and resilience. Season two is on its way, and I’m thrilled to bring you interviews with more experts and survivors who have thrived despite their past.

Stay tuned for the release date, and together, let’s break the chains of shame and empower one another.

#breakthesilence #sasurvivor #saawareness

Many ask if I'm at peace with my story, and it's true, it's like carrying a piece of luggage with me always. But I've learned to find peace within it. The family that was meant to protect me couldn't shield me from harm, so I had to become my own protector. Creating a sense of safety within myself has been my refuge. Turning this terrible, awful experience into something that helps others has been my source of strength. My journey of healing has empowered me to support fellow survivors. Together, we can find solace and inspire hope in each other. 💪💕 #Empowerment #HealingJourney #SupportingSurvivors #YouAreNotAlone created by Kelly Wallace with Øneheart & reidenshi’s snowfall

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Many ask if I'm at peace with my story, and it's true, it's like carrying a piece of luggage with me always. But I've learned to find peace within it. The family that was meant to protect me couldn't shield me from harm, so I had to become my own protector. Creating a sense of safety within myself has been my refuge.

Turning this terrible, awful experience into something that helps others has been my source of strength. My journey of healing has empowered me to support fellow survivors. Together, we can find solace and inspire hope in each other. 💪💕 #Empowerment #HealingJourney #SupportingSurvivors #YouAreNotAlone

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