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melliobrien

Melli O'Brien

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Mindfulness and mental strength coach. Making the world mentally stronger.

When to use grit vs when to quit. When we have a big goal or dream we hit these points where we ask ourselves the question. Is this a time to push forward, or is this a time to let go? In other words, is it time for grit or time to quit. Here’s three things to check in with yourself in order to make the choice. Are you enjoying what you're doing and finding meaning and purpose through it? What opportunities are you giving up in order to pursue this goal? Are those tradeoffs worth it? If you are totally honest with yourself, does it look like things can work out if you keep going (do you have the strengths, can you get the right resources, do you have the commitment and time)? If your willpower and hard work is not in alignment with your values, is not enjoyable and is taking you away from other things that really matter to you, then it is probably not in your best interests to persevere. #GritVsQuit #MentalStrength #Mindfulness #MindfulLiving #StayStrong #Determination #Resilience #LifeChoices #GoalSetting #Mindset #Purpose created by Melli O'Brien with Melli O'Brien’s original sound - Melli O'Brien
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When to use grit vs when to quit.

When we have a big goal or dream we hit these points where we ask ourselves the question. Is this a time to push forward, or is this a time to let go? In other words, is it time for grit or time to quit. Here’s three things to check in with yourself in order to make the choice.

Are you enjoying what you're doing and finding meaning and purpose through it?

What opportunities are you giving up in order to pursue this goal? Are those tradeoffs worth it?

If you are totally honest with yourself, does it look like things can work out if you keep going (do you have the strengths, can you get the right resources, do you have the commitment and time)?

If your willpower and hard work is not in alignment with your values, is not enjoyable and is taking you away from other things that really matter to you, then it is probably not in your best interests to persevere.

#GritVsQuit #MentalStrength #Mindfulness #MindfulLiving #StayStrong #Determination #Resilience #LifeChoices #GoalSetting #Mindset #Purpose
They say we’re living in the AGE of envy.

Human beings have, of course, always felt envy. But now social media has created a world in which everyone seems to be happy, gorgeous and living (and flaunting) their best life.

And as we scroll through all these filtered, polished, and airbrushed images of people showing off their new kitchen, their perfect holiday, their sculpted bodies, their adorable children and their great career wins, these images of perfection stoke the fires of envy within us.

With new research pouring in that shows that envy is linked to depression and anxiety, the old saying ‘Envy is thief of happiness’ is ringing all too true.

So what is envy exactly? It's a feeling of discontentment, unworthiness or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions, qualities, or luck. In other words, you see what someone else has, you compare yourself to them and you not only wish you had it, but you feel diminished and/or resentful because they have it.

In this week's episode of the Mentally Stronger podcast I give you two science-backed practices that will help you to not only combat the effects of envy, but transform moments of envy into moments of building your mental strength.

Tune in wherever you listen to your podcasts.

#MentalStrength #Envy #SocialMedia #InnerPeace #Mindfulness #ComparisonTrap #Resilience #Mindfulness #EmotionalWellness #OvercomingEnvy #Mindset #MentalHealth #EnvyIntoEmpowerment
#InnerStrength
Control the focus of your mind with this simple hack

Imagine you experience a big setback.

If we ask ourselves, “Why do bad things always happen to me?” or, “Why am I such an idiot?”. Then your mind will start a mental dialogue giving you answers to that question. It can create a snowball effect of unhelpful self-talk that will likely disempower you, cause you stress, lower your self-worth and drag down your mood.
 
However, if you ask questions like “What can I learn from this experience and how might it help me grow?”, or “How can I make the best of this?”, or “What is one positive step I can take now to turn this around?” This will empower you,  elevate your mood and connect you to purpose and grit.

If you are constantly unhappy, disempowered or feeling insecure, one of the main causes may be that in your self-talk you’re asking yourself unhelpful questions. So just with this one simple shift in your mindset you can take back your power, be more effective in reaching your goals and lead a more rich, full and meaningful life.

Controlling your mental focus and asking better questions is going to be our topic next month at the Mental Strength School from the first of September.

So if this sounds like it might be helpful for you, come and check it out.

#MindOverMatter #StayFocused #QuestionsAreTheAnswer #MentalStrength
#MindsetMatters #Resilience #InnerStrength #Mindfulness #UnbreakableMind
#StayStrong
There's no such thing as a ‘good’ or ‘bad’ emotion. There are only ‘good’ and ‘bad’ responses to emotions. 

#EmotionalStrength #MentalStrength #Mindfulness #EmotionalIntelligence #MindsetShift #EmotionEmpowerment #ChooseYourResponse #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealth
Success requires self-compassion not self-criticism.

#SelfCompassion #MentalStrength #StopNegativeSelfTalk #Mindfulness

#SelfCompassion #SuccessMindset #KindnessMatters #MentalStrength #Resilience #StopNegativeSelfTalk # #SelfLove #RiseAboveChallenges #InnerStrength #PositiveAffirmations #SelfCare #EmbraceSetbacks #StayMotivated
Daily meditation #meditatewithme #mentalstrength #meditate#meditatewithmen
Many social media tips on improving mental health are not only inaccurate, but some can be downright damaging.

If they sound catchy, appear on a well-crafted video and have some inspiring music behind them they can ‘go viral’ even though there is actually no evidence at all to support them.

Beware: just because something is popular (aka gets alot of likes, shares or comments) doesn’t mean it’s true.

One of the worst bits of mental health advice I see all the time = "Just get rid of negative thoughts and think only positive thoughts!” (in all the different ways of saying this basic message)

This is bad advice because research shows that trying to get rid of negative thoughts or trying to replace them all with positive thoughts is not only ineffective, it actually amplifies unwanted thoughts and makes them stay around longer (it’s called the white bear effect), and it can also be a key contributor in the development of mental illnesses.

This can lead to what's called toxic positivity, a form of emotional suppression. A habit that can also lead to a whole host of detrimental side effects.

While positivity can be helpful in a lot of situations, it’s not a panacea for all of life’s challenges.

And in the harder times, skills like mindfulness, self-compassion and authenticity are better companions on the road to resilience.
2 minute meditation
Sometimes we think we can’t take action until we’ve conquered our fear or anxiety and achieved some kind of magical state of confidence. 

So we don’t ask that person out, try for that job we want, start that business or go for that goal. 

Don’t hold yourself back by waiting to be in the right mental state to take action, because it may never happen. Instead of trying to get rid of anxiety and fear, make space for them to be here, but let actions be guided by your values and your heart’s deepest desires for your life. Be pulled by your values rather than pushed around by your fears.
Are you struggling to get rid of your negative thoughts?
Find out more here:
https://melliobrien.com/why-its-a-bad-idea-to-try-to-get-rid-of-your-negative-thoughts/
After more than 15 years of teaching mental strength and mindfulness to people from all over the world, I realised that at the heart of much of our mental struggles, our suffering and our loss of inner strength, lies one simple core issue.

We, in the modern world, have become profoundly disconnected.

From nature. From each other. From ourselves.

It has become my firm belief that in order to find our true inner strength again, we need to go through a process of reconnection. Step by step. Bit by bit. We need to find our way back home to a sense of belonging, connection and wholeness within the circle of life.

And this week's episode of the Mentally Stronger podcast is about just that. Beginning to take a small daily action to help you reconnect to your true nature. Tune in wherever you listen to your podcasts.
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Knowing the difference between facts and stories is one of the most important aspects of mental strength. The Mentally Stronger podcast, Episode 25.
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