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Maria Iams

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Coach✨Author✍️Sharing tips that improve your relationship with your teen.

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📚I’ve gotten a lot of questions about homework this week! Here’s my recommendation: Office Hours ✏️📓 In just one week I’ve seen improvement in my 9th grader’s time management and prioritization. 💪 I’ve got lots of homework tips - let me know how I can help in the comments or DM me the word “homework” for a quick tip! created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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📚I’ve gotten a lot of questions about homework this week!

Here’s my recommendation: Office Hours ✏️📓

In just one week I’ve seen improvement in my 9th grader’s time management and prioritization. 💪

I’ve got lots of homework tips - let me know how I can help in the comments or DM me the word “homework” for a quick tip!

Never not working on my aggressive communication 💪 Three tips for setting guidelines - or reinstating rules - for your teens These will help you keep the lines of communication open and improve your relationship with your teenagers! created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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Never not working on my aggressive communication 💪

Three tips for setting guidelines - or reinstating rules - for your teens

These will help you keep the lines of communication open and improve your relationship with your teenagers!

We crowd-sourced 10 things teens wish their parents knew about communicating with them. The way teens talk is 🤌. Here’s #2! Follow along for more quick tips on how to best communicate with your teen! created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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We crowd-sourced 10 things teens wish their parents knew about communicating with them.

The way teens talk is 🤌. Here’s #2 !

Follow along for more quick tips on how to best communicate with your teen!

We crowd-sourced 10 things teens wish their parents knew about communicating with them. Mia is sharing the first one in a social media take-over. Follow for more quick tips on how to best communicate with your teen! created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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We crowd-sourced 10 things teens wish their parents knew about communicating with them.

Mia is sharing the first one in a social media take-over.

Follow for more quick tips on how to best communicate with your teen!

🎶 Let’s hear it for the boys! Are you the parent of a boy? Here’s something you can be doing to nuture your son and strengthen your relationship and communication. DM me if you want help phrasing how your can validate your son’s feelings - I’ll give you a few ideas! Also a big virtual hug to those 18 boys who I ended up having for two years 💗💗. created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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🎶 Let’s hear it for the boys!

Are you the parent of a boy? Here’s something you can be doing to nuture your son and strengthen your relationship and communication.

DM me if you want help phrasing how your can validate your son’s feelings - I’ll give you a few ideas!

Also a big virtual hug to those 18 boys who I ended up having for two years 💗💗.

What do you do when your teenager falls short? 😤 You might be tempted to punish them. Instead, try these three tips for engaging in a more productive conversation. Leave a comment - what do you do when your teenager falls short? created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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What do you do when your teenager falls short? 😤

You might be tempted to punish them.

Instead, try these three tips for engaging in a more productive conversation.

Leave a comment - what do you do when your teenager falls short?

Resolutions for 2023 🎉: Let’s normalize apologizing to our teens. Did your parents apologize to you when you were a teenager 20-30 years ago? Mine didn’t. Sign of the times and not a reflection on them as parents. But, things have changed - we know more now about teenage brain development, building healthy relationships, and productive communication. So, if you make a mistake, apologize to your teen. Don’t defend yourself, just apologize. “I’m sorry for coming at you harshly. I’m working on that, and I’ll do better next time.” You’re modeling healthy conflict resolution and also showing your teenager you respect and honor their feelings and point of view. Do you apologize to your teen? Let us know in the comments! created by Maria Iams with Timbaland’s Apologize

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Resolutions for 2023 🎉:

Let’s normalize apologizing to our teens.

Did your parents apologize to you when you were a teenager 20-30 years ago? Mine didn’t. Sign of the times and not a reflection on them as parents. But, things have changed - we know more now about teenage brain development, building healthy relationships, and productive communication.

So, if you make a mistake, apologize to your teen. Don’t defend yourself, just apologize. “I’m sorry for coming at you harshly. I’m working on that, and I’ll do better next time.”

You’re modeling healthy conflict resolution and also showing your teenager you respect and honor their feelings and point of view.

Do you apologize to your teen? Let us know in the comments!

🚨Watch out for this! Your language makes a difference. If your teenager thinks you’re ordering them around, they will resist. Instead, try this: Please do __ before ___. Offer a reasonable timeline. Then your teen can decide when to do what you’ve asked them to do, which will make them more likely to do it. Bottom line, don’t add to the drama 🎭. Be thoughtful with your language! For more quick tips, click the follow button! created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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🚨Watch out for this!
Your language makes a difference. If your teenager thinks you’re ordering them around, they will resist.
Instead, try this: Please do __ before ___. Offer a reasonable timeline. Then your teen can decide when to do what you’ve asked them to do, which will make them more likely to do it.
Bottom line, don’t add to the drama 🎭. Be thoughtful with your language!
For more quick tips, click the follow button!

🚨Don’t project! Teens hate it when you put words in their mouth. Instead of, “Areyou excited about the football season,”ask, “how are you feeling about it?” Instead of, “Ready for school to start?” try, “how are you feeling about school starting?” You might be surprised at the answers, but don’t act surprised. Listen. Nod. Say, “Say more…what do you mean?” ❤️ Like and share with your friends who have teenagers! created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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🚨Don’t project!

Teens hate it when you put words in their mouth.

Instead of, “Areyou excited about the football season,”ask, “how are you feeling about it?”

Instead of, “Ready for school to start?” try, “how are you feeling about school starting?”

You might be surprised at the answers, but don’t act surprised. Listen. Nod. Say, “Say more…what do you mean?”

❤️ Like and share with your friends who have teenagers!

What’s the line between your teen being productively engaged to over-scheduled? 🗓️ “Hustle culture” can create overburdened nervous systems. What works for someone isn’t going to work for someone else. For us, one teen loves to be constantly in motion, and one can handle only two “things” a day - we keep this in mind when signing him up for extracurriculars. What do you do to help your teen stay productively engaged and not over-scheduled and overwhelmed? Drop a comment! ⬇️ created by Maria Iams with Axel🇺🇸’s son original

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What’s the line between your teen being productively engaged to over-scheduled? 🗓️

“Hustle culture” can create overburdened nervous systems. What works for someone isn’t going to work for someone else.

For us, one teen loves to be constantly in motion, and one can handle only two “things” a day - we keep this in mind when signing him up for extracurriculars.

What do you do to help your teen stay productively engaged and not over-scheduled and overwhelmed? Drop a comment! ⬇️

Try this coaching strategy to get your teens to talk more: 3️⃣2️⃣1️⃣ Interact with only 3, 2, or 1 word statements or questions. You might be surprised at what happens! Try it as a way to reduce your contribution and encourage them to keep talking. Like and share with your friends who have teens! created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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Try this coaching strategy to get your teens to talk more:

3️⃣2️⃣1️⃣

Interact with only 3, 2, or 1 word statements or questions. You might be surprised at what happens!

Try it as a way to reduce your contribution and encourage them to keep talking.

Like and share with your friends who have teens!

So you’re teen doesn’t talk to you… What might YOU be doing to make it harder for them to? Check ✅ your own behavior and how you’re engaging with them. Here’s a challenge - don’t ask them how their day was. Say, “I’m glad you’re home and can’t wait to hear about your day.” And stop 🛑 talking. And maybe they’ll agree to film you doing this in their bathroom and roll their eyes only once 🙄. created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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So you’re teen doesn’t talk to you…

What might YOU be doing to make it harder for them to?

Check ✅ your own behavior and how you’re engaging with them.

Here’s a challenge - don’t ask them how their day was. Say, “I’m glad you’re home and can’t wait to hear about your day.” And stop 🛑 talking.

And maybe they’ll agree to film you doing this in their bathroom and roll their eyes only once 🙄.

🚨 Advice doesn’t work 🚨 Try this instead: - Listen (nod your head, eye contact) 👂 - Open (hmm. Sounds like you’re not sure what to do) 🫶 - Ask (what are some things your considering?) ❓ This strategy of listen-open-ask gets you into a conversation with your teen where you can offer guidance and not advice. Want to learn more? I have podcasts on this structure! Check them out (link in bio) Like 👍 and share ➡️ with your friends who have teenagers! created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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🚨 Advice doesn’t work 🚨

Try this instead:
- Listen (nod your head, eye contact) 👂
- Open (hmm. Sounds like you’re not sure what to do) 🫶
- Ask (what are some things your considering?) ❓

This strategy of listen-open-ask gets you into a conversation with your teen where you can offer guidance and not advice.

Want to learn more? I have podcasts on this structure! Check them out (link in bio)

Like 👍 and share ➡️ with your friends who have teenagers!

🚨Tip: How to keep your teenager talking! It’s a quick swap: Instead of saying, “Anything else?” say “What else?” “Anything else” suggest they should be “done.” “What else” suggests that there could be more and encourages them to keep talking. Give this a try and let me know how it goes! 💪 created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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🚨Tip: How to keep your teenager talking!

It’s a quick swap:

Instead of saying, “Anything else?” say “What else?”

“Anything else” suggest they should be “done.”
“What else” suggests that there could be more and encourages them to keep talking.

Give this a try and let me know how it goes! 💪

Teenagers and their relationships – here’s one tip for coaching them through it: Instead of saying, “He’s not a good friend or you shouldn’t hang out with him,” reserve your judgement, and instead ask, “What are you learning about so-and-so?” AND “Do you think that might change?” You’re empowering them to come to their own conclusions, and gently reminding them that things might change. We’re all people in training, right? Like and share with your friends who have teenagers! created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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Teenagers and their relationships – here’s one tip for coaching them through it:

Instead of saying, “He’s not a good friend or you shouldn’t hang out with him,” reserve your judgement, and instead ask,

“What are you learning about so-and-so?” AND

“Do you think that might change?”

You’re empowering them to come to their own conclusions, and gently reminding them that things might change. We’re all people in training, right?

Like and share with your friends who have teenagers!

Are you a potted plant parent? 🪴 This term comes from Lisa Damour in her book 📖 Untangled (btw, such a great read! One of my favorites). Research shows that parents’ presence, just being around their teenagers, has a positive impact. Folding laundry in the same room, being the background while they are doing homework, all of the “quiet and boring” things we do as parents are important in the relationship with our teens. Oftentimes parents think they need to engage, have a conversation, but they don’t. Just being makes a difference. How are you a potted plant parent? 🪴Share it in the comments! created by Maria Iams with Maria Iams’s original sound

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Are you a potted plant parent? 🪴

This term comes from Lisa Damour in her book 📖 Untangled (btw, such a great read! One of my favorites).

Research shows that parents’ presence, just being around their teenagers, has a positive impact. Folding laundry in the same room, being the background while they are doing homework, all of the “quiet and boring” things we do as parents are important in the relationship with our teens.

Oftentimes parents think they need to engage, have a conversation, but they don’t. Just being makes a difference.

How are you a potted plant parent? 🪴Share it in the comments!

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