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I want you to consider the idea that the automatic negative feelings that you feel (about your space not being a certain way) did not originate with you. They don’t belong to you. They came from somebody else’s dysregulated nervous system. Probably, your primary caregiver was feeling overwhelmingly negative about care tasks. Or maybe it wasn’t even about care tasks, or cleaning. Maybe your caregiver was upset and dysregulated for reasons unrelated to cleaning. The point is, we are not born with inherent feelings of shame when there are too many dishes left out. Somebody programmed that into you and you possibly have never considered whether that shame program is actually helpful to you. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t clean your space. I’m just saying that the negative feelings you have about it are unnecessary and unhelpful. you deserve a functional space. And you deserve to celebrate yourself, no matter what.