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Conscious Mommy | Bryana
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The more you reflect, the less you project. I loved helping this father better attune to his son by helping him understand HIMSELF better! Brava dad! #consciousparenting #parentsoftiktok #gentleparentingworks #cyclebreakers #responsiveparenting #fyp #therapistsoftiktok❤️ #consciousparent #healingtrauma
A common comment and question I receive from folks is focused around their belief that co-regulating with their child doesn’t work:
-validating emotions makes things worse
-trying to offer support makes things worse
-staying present makes things worse
Here’s what I’ve found in my work as a Licensed MFT with over 15,000 hours of child-parent dyadic experience:
When co-regulating “isn’t working”, it’s indicative of something else going on beneath the surface.
Often, there’s trauma, family stress, parental discord, or different changes and transitions for the child without enough support.
Sometimes, the child is neurodivergent (ASD/ADHD), has a mental health issue (depression/anxiety/OCD/etc), and/or sensory processing differences.
And nearly all of the time, the parent lacks consistent emotional support and connection to their community; not to mention they’re usually burnt out.
So before you assume that your kid is incapable of co-regulating, consider the multitude of underlying factors that may be at play.
And tend to those.
It will help everyone in your family. 💜
#consciousparenting #parentsoftiktok #gentleparentingworks #cyclebreakers #responsiveparenting #fyp
-validating emotions makes things worse
-trying to offer support makes things worse
-staying present makes things worse
Here’s what I’ve found in my work as a Licensed MFT with over 15,000 hours of child-parent dyadic experience:
When co-regulating “isn’t working”, it’s indicative of something else going on beneath the surface.
Often, there’s trauma, family stress, parental discord, or different changes and transitions for the child without enough support.
Sometimes, the child is neurodivergent (ASD/ADHD), has a mental health issue (depression/anxiety/OCD/etc), and/or sensory processing differences.
And nearly all of the time, the parent lacks consistent emotional support and connection to their community; not to mention they’re usually burnt out.
So before you assume that your kid is incapable of co-regulating, consider the multitude of underlying factors that may be at play.
And tend to those.
It will help everyone in your family. 💜
#consciousparenting #parentsoftiktok #gentleparentingworks #cyclebreakers #responsiveparenting #fyp
Feel free to adapt this language to suit your family style and your child’s unique needs. These are just sample talks ive had with kids over the years, whether it was kids who are overly trusting of strangers and kids who were overly apprehensive of strangers. #consciousparenting #parentsoftiktok #therapistsontiktok #gentleparentingworks #cyclebreakers #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #fyp #consciousmomma #simpleparenting
Make sure you watch all the way til the end for my full analysis. Do not leave shaming comments about this mother’s response to her child’s distress. Feeling shut down is a normal reaction to stress just like anything else. I hope this video gives you insights and concrete tools. See you inside the community in the fall for more direct learning like this. #consciousparenting #parentsoftiktok #therapistsontiktok #gentleparentingworks #cyclebreakers #gentleparenting #responsiveparenting #fyp #consciousmomma
We cannot call ourselves conscious parents if we arent open to fully accepting ALL children and families in ALL ways that they exist. If you have no qualms with showing your child hetero normative families, but feel there is no place for LGBTQ families, then you have some inner work to do. This is not about having differing values. This is about finding the inner peace to transcend the noise and replace fear with acceptance and hate with love. #consciousparenting #consciousparent
Parenting yourself takes discipline. Learning how to show up for your kids requires that you show up for yourself. Gently encouraging your kids demands that you be more gentle with yourself. You’re amazing. Don’t forget it. #gentleparentingworks #therapistsontiktok #consciousparent #consciousparenting #parentsoftiktok #cyclebreakers #healingmamas #consciousmomma
